Response to Mission Matters

The Everchanging Admission Landscape

After reading an article written by the Director of Undergraduate Admissions at Georgia Tech on admission decisions, our team felt inspired to share our own insights. The author of the article expresses his experience with disappointed, confused, and frustrated parents in the coming days and weeks of decision announcements. Why was my child not chosen? In short, the author emphasizes that a student should determine their vision for college and their values for an education and review the mission statement of every school they are applying to. Then, compare their personal “mission statement” with that of each institution, to determine if there is a true fit. Do the two missions make a match?

Following the end of each admissions cycle, we are tasked at explaining how the college landscape is constantly changing. We seek information from college admissions offices to learn how every school is adjusting for the new needs of their institution and student body, and we do our best to relay this information. 

  • Are test scores required? 
  • Is having an interview important?
  • Did they lose funding for their business department?
  • Are they building a new Freshman dorm?
  • Is there a new college president?
  • Do they value religion and service?
  • Did they re-prioritize financial assistance for in-state students?

The questions and possibilities are endless as to why a student was accepted to one school and not another. This is when we reflect on not simply enrollment rates, but what is XYZ University’s overall mission and vision for advancing their community? 

Let’s look at a couple examples, shall we?

Clemson University – notably a large, mainly Southern school, with a technical focus and a lot of school spirit. Not much has changed here. Except one factor – in the past 10 years, their football team has had a better record, increasing in the school’s popularity and interest. With a strong sports program, comes slightly more funding, and more opportunities for students who may not have considered Clemson. However, as applications increase, the acceptance rate will decrease. A school that once had close to a 51% acceptance rate, now has a 47% acceptance rate. As more students seek out Clemson, many who may not have a STEM focus, the school must re-evaluate who to accept. This is one example, and the landscape will continue to change for Clemson and similar schools. 

Now take COVID as a factor – more students are now interested in campuses where they can spend more time outside. This increases the applications to schools in warmer climates and schools that provide a lot of year-round outdoor activities, such as the University of Colorado – Boulder. For the past 5+ admissions seasons, the acceptance rate has been close to, at times slightly over, 80%. Today, the projected acceptance rate is now closer to 70%. This number can, and will, consistently change as our values and needs in a school change. 

If we look at warm weather schools, such as the Florida state schools, they are continuing to require test scores. As applications rise for Florida schools, the need for increased academic standards will rise too. Keeping test scores a requirement, allows admissions offices to narrow down the pot of overflowing interest.

 This is why we can never for sure answer the question: Why was I not accepted? And why the list of reach, target, and likely schools will change for students year to year. 

Circling back to the original article we read and the author’s intended lesson for all prospective families: individuals and institutions change, grow, and evolve. We can’t control how the admissions landscape will adjust, but we can take a closer look at our own values and missions. Ask yourself: Do my current values align with the current mission statements of the schools I am applying to? Do my hopes for my college education match with the plans of each college I am applying to? With an open-mind and our guidance, you will end up where you were always meant to be! 

Practicing Gratitude

Throughout the college application journey, we research the “best fit” colleges, edit resumés and reflect on character building, write and rewrite numerous essays, and have long discussions about planning for the future. We are grateful to our students who are willing to be vulnerable, open, and reflective throughout this process and we hope our students feel a stronger sense of self as a result. 

 

As Thanksgiving and the holiday season fast approaches, we encourage you – whether you are a parent, current student, or prospective student – to practice gratitude towards others. A former student once shared that before they go to bed each night, they think of three people, moments, or experiences from that day for which they are grateful. In this exercise that takes less than one-minute, this student is prioritizing a mindful approach to being more grounded in their everyday life, recognizing and acknowledging special opportunities, and staying connected to others. 

We know the breadth of emotions you each have been feeling this past year-and-a-half, let alone these last few months in the college process. You are not alone in how you feel. Imagine if each of us set aside the little time this exercise requires. Undoubtedly, it would create ripples in the ways in which we relate to those around us, and the sense of support we feel in our communities. Take a minute to send a text to a friend, family member, co-worker, or mentor to let them know you are thinking of them and are thankful for their presence in your life. You’ll be surprised by the impact it makes.

Better yet, pay your gratitude forward. Reach out to mentor a younger sibling or student at your school. Remind them of the supports that are available and encourage them to engage in school, strive to be a leader, and aspire to college. Give them reasons to be grateful.    

Parents – this opportunity to be grateful applies to you as well. Admission to college feels like the final frontier of your fading control over the well-being, and futures, of these beings that you have nurtured for almost two decades. It can be a time that is fraught with anxiety, miscommunication, and tension. It can also be an opportunity to pause and consider just how hopeful you are for your teen(s) and what lies ahead for them. Whether you are celebrating a Thanksgiving free of college talk, or you find yourself during the holidays worrying less about a fully cooked turkey and more about your teen’s future, take time to be grateful for this bonding experience with your child. 

We are grateful to each student and family we have worked with this year and thank you for trusting us to guide you through the college process. Our journey together is far from over, but we hope you know our depth of gratitude and we will continue to be supportive of you.

How to Create College List

How do you choose a college that’s right for you? What a daunting question!

The good news: there are more than 4,500 colleges and universities in the US. Even better news: most schools accept most students, with the national average at 66.7% in 2017 (source). But which of the 4,500 should you apply to?

High school counselors, as well as private counselors such as our team at EPC, can be a wonderful support during the college application process. EPC counselors even have knowledge of specialized programs that can help you in choosing the best college. If you have yet to schedule a meeting with your high school counselor, this blog post will offer a few steps for how to develop a great college list. 

Here are the steps for choosing a college:

  1. Get to know your interests and preferences. At EPC we offer a major/career-interest assessment to help you narrow in on your options. 
  2. Discover what specific qualities you want in a college (i.e. green campus, city, school-spirited, etc.)
  3. Create an initial list of colleges that match this criteria – make this list as big as possible. Don’t limit your options. EPC counselors are here to offer suggestions and make your list manageable. 
  4. Research your chances of getting into each of these colleges and organize your school list by “Reach,” “Target,” and “Likely.”
  5. Narrow down your results into your final list of colleges.
  6. Apply away!

 

College Match Survey

Handling Admission Decision

You’ve put in hours of research to compile the best fit list of colleges to apply to, spent your summer and late nights writing countless essays, prepped for interviews, rescheduled campus tours, and inquired about scholarships. BUT, here comes the hard part . . . waiting for admissions decisions. The majority of Early Action and ideally all Early Decision announcements have been made. Over the next 8-12 weeks, Regular Decision notifications will be released. SO, how do you handle the various admission decisions?

If you are accepted ED admission — Congratulations! We hope this feels like a dream come true. 99% of the time, this is a binding contract. Meaning, by applying Early Decision, you and your family are prepared to attend said university if admitted. However, there is an important piece of information to know that most admissions officers neglect to share. A recent NYT article shared, “These supposedly binding offers do not, in fact, oblige you to attend. If you can’t afford to go at the price that the college has asked you to pay, you can back out.”

Should this be the case for your family, do not let anyone push you into a direction that is not a fit for you. “You can apply anywhere you want once you break an early decision agreement. You’re supposed to withdraw applications elsewhere and not send out others only if you accept an early decision offer.”

If you are accepted EA or RD admission — Congratulations! Keep in mind financial aid packages and merit-based scholarships may come in a separate letter, a few days, or even a few weeks, after receiving the initial acceptance. Check your email, your student portal, and the actual mail for all communication. If you have earned acceptance into a school that you fully intend to enroll in, please notify your other schools as early as possible so your seat at these other colleges can be offered to another hopeful student, possibly someone without any other offers. You absolutely have until the intended deadline to make a decision; however, if there are even 1 – 2 schools you can notify that you will not be attending, the better your standing.   

If you are deferred admission —  A defer is not a deny. We hope you will not look back over what you could have done differently. Spend time focusing on having a strong second semester, send in a midterm report, and complete any forms or other requirements, like a Letter of Continued Interest, the school requests.

If you are denied admission -– Ok. You did not get in. Remember, this process is like dating, or finding a best friend, or adopting a pet, or trying out for a team, you both must be a good fit for each other. You are talented and capable! Not every school out there, just like every person on the planet, will not be the right match for you. It’s likely you’ve already been admitted to other colleges, or you soon will be. We understand you wish those free throws would have swished cleanly through the net, rather than rattled around the rim and out, but the long game is far from over. Keep your head up! If you do that, you will see plenty of people in the crowd cheering for you— family, friends, teachers, counselors, and others in your community who know you, love you, and believe in you. Focus on their words of affirmation, rather than the ones on a screen, a letter, or in your head right now.

If you are supporting a student receiving difficult news – Parents and other adults around students who are disappointed or hurting think they need to call the admission office (or the president or the governor), appeal the decision, “come down there,” or pull strings.

Ultimately, we think in these moments what kids (all of us, actually) need is very simple—love, concern, empathy, belief, and encouragement. And hey, if the words aren’t coming, a heartfelt hug might be best anyway. 

The Ultimate Cheat Sheet on Encouraging Better Grades from Your Teen

So often, teen’s grades start slipping due to procrastination, not handing in homework, not finishing projects on time, poor test scores – you know the drill. It makes for a tough home environment when two incredulous parents are struggling to figure out how to get through to a teen who just doesn’t care what they think, and doesn’t think there’s really a problem in the first place. As much as you try to keep a stress and drama-free home…well, I’m sure you know how grades can really put a damper on that plan.College admissions folks put a lot of emphasis on GPA (grade point average) and on academic rigor (expert-speak for “challenging courses”). In fact, it’s right up there at the top of the list for items they look at first when considering applications. So, it’s natural to feel a little pressure here.

And I’m sure that, after employing an arsenal of tactics to encourage your teen to lift those grades without any success at all (persuasion, reverse psychology, bribes – none of these are recommended), you’re probably ready for some new ideas. Well, that’s where this blog comes in!

A Self-Development Junkie’s Epiphany

If you’re not familiar with Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be, you should be. There is so much to learn and take action on within this book. With chapters entitled “Believe in Yourself,” “Unleash the Power of Goal Setting,” and “Success Leaves Clues,” you’ll find successes in your own life with these actionable principles.

The reason I bring up his book is because he also happened to create the same book in a simpler format for teens: The Success Principles for Teens: How to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. This book will seriously help your teen identify and focus on their goals for the future.

Sunday Afternoon Book Club

Try instituting a Sunday Afternoon Book Club with just you and your high schooler. Make it a goal to read a chapter a week and discuss how you can each use the principles you’ve learned in your own lives. Starting with the first chapter, “Take 100% Responsibility for your Life,” implement new initiatives to hold each other accountable for not blaming others or things outside of yourselves for things that go wrong in life. A friend of mine did this with her daughter and was able to eliminate her perceived lack of time as an excuse to get things done for her business and started getting up earlier in the morning to complete things. Her daughter used it to stop blaming a tough teacher for her low test scores and asked for a tutor to support her in math. They took serious responsibility together right away for everything and found their own solutions – no excuses.

After a few book club meetings, my friend’s daughter was showing significant improvements. Not only in the academic sphere, but she also started setting bigger goals for her future.

With this method, you and your high schooler will have two accountability partners: the book and each other. And, over time, you’ll find that your home life is much less stressful and your teen is doing better academically – both major wins!

Tips for Overcoming the Battle over Grades

  • Provide guidance, not force.  The surest way to get your teen to put up a wall is for you to tell them exactly how things should be done. You’ve probably noticed that power struggles are typically won by your teen in the homework/school arena – it’s one area they’ve got more control over than you do. Take more of a mentoring role here instead of one of authority; I promise it’ll produce better results. You can ask passive questions, like:
    • Are you satisfied with the way things are going?
    • If not, what do you want to do about it? How can you make it better?
    • How can I be helpful to you in this?

 

  • Model successful behavior. Demonstrate to your teen that you’re developing and working toward goals you’ve set for yourself. Take the available time you have in the car or at dinner to discuss your goals (to run a marathon, complete a project, earn more money at work, start a business). Talk about what’s working for you, where your challenges are, how you plan to overcome them.
  • Hire a tutor. Outsourcing the job of accountability and study support for your teen is one of the best ways I’ve found to ensure there’s less stress at home when it comes to school work. There are great tutoring companies out there, or you can check with your high schooler’s counselor to find out if there are free options for support at the school. Several of my students receive amazing tutoring at home via Skype and a shared whiteboard from people all around the country with PrepNow Tutoring.

A Little Solace: Success in Life Can Happen without Stellar Grades

Knowing that it takes some time for a GPA to increase over time, I did a little of what I call comfort research: It helped me to learn that Steve Jobs and Colin Powell are examples of very successful people who graduated with very low GPAs in high school (2.65 and 2.0, respectively). Maybe that’ll bring you some solace, too.

Heck – Steve Jobs and Bill Gates didn’t even graduate college! Just…maybe don’t lead with that. 😉

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